If you're reading this and wondering how self-aware you actually are, that's a good sign. People who completely lack self-awareness don't ask that question. Here's how to develop it: Pay attention to the cringe. When you look back at an interaction and something doesn't sit right, don't dismiss it. Explore it. What about it bothers you? What would you do differently? Notice the patterns. If you keep having the same problem with different people, the problem isn't them. It'

The pace of change isn't slowing down. Technology like AI is transforming how we work. Generational dynamics are shifting as new generations enter the workforce and older ones retire. Best practices evolve. Leaders who stay curious adapt to these changes. They learn new tools. They understand new perspectives. They adjust their approaches based on new information. Leaders who think they already know everything become increasingly irrelevant. They keep doing things the way t

Here's the thing. Procrastinating having a difficult conversation doesn't make it easier. It actually makes it harder. Most of the time, the conversations aren't those that I didn't have, because I am not afraid to have a difficult conversation. It's that I waited too long to have it. Let's use a performance matter as the example. Then let's put ourselves in the shoes of being the person with the performance issue. How would you feel if your boss came to you and told yo

When you're decisive, even when you're wrong sometimes, people trust you more than when you're perpetually uncertain. Because they know you'll move things forward. They know projects won't languish. They know you'll take responsibility for the direction you're setting. And when you do make the wrong call, when you realize your hiring decision was a mistake or your strategic direction needs to change, your decisiveness shows up there too. You acknowledge it. You adjust. You m

I worked with someone who wouldn't take accountability for anything. Well, unless it was taking credit for something. For that, credit would be taken. If they made a mistake however, the finger was pointed. The idea they were presenting suddenly became someone else's. The decision they had made became a decision they were overturning. Often this person did all of this behind the backs of others. We watched relationships crumble and trust fail and had no idea why.

Adaptability isn't about being a pushover. It's not about abandoning your values or flip-flopping on important decisions. It's not about saying yes to every change that comes along. Adaptability is your ability to adjust your approach when circumstances change. To stay effective when the plan falls apart. To lead through uncertainty without pretending you have it all figured out. It's recognizing when the path you're on isn't working anymore and being willing to find a diff

I'm very imperfect in communication. Not to say I don't study what works, what doesn't, and make many attempts to regularly do better. But effective communication is hard. The line between too much and too little communication is so fine it's missed often. And here's what makes it even harder: the location of that line changes based on who you're working with, what the topic is, the day or time, the feelings of the other person, and so much more. A perfect way to communicat

Early in my career, if I had a question, I asked it. Didn't think twice about how to phrase it, how it would be received, or whether it might upset someone. I just charged ahead, oblivious to the wreckage I was leaving behind. If something frustrated me, you knew it. My face told the whole story before my mouth even opened. I thought passion and authenticity meant wearing your heart on your sleeve and letting people know exactly how you felt in every moment. I wasn't entire

And you know what happens? When politics enters the workplace, trust exits. Because people can tell. They always can. No matter how polished the performance, people sense when their leader isn't being real. And once they sense it, everything that leader says gets filtered through that lens of skepticism. That's why authenticity isn't just a nice to have quality in leadership. It's essential. Not because being real makes you likable, though it might. But because leading

I worked with a team once whose leader had a habit of taking credit for their work. Not in obvious ways. It was subtle. In meetings with upper management, the leader would present ideas the team had developed without mentioning where they came from. When projects succeeded, the leader's name was front and center. When things went wrong, suddenly it was a team effort and everyone shared the blame. The team noticed. Of course they noticed. And once they did, everything changed.

A few years ago at a leadership conference, someone pulled me aside during a break. They needed to vent about their boss. What they described stayed with me because it wasn't just frustrating. It was a masterclass in how leadership falls apart when one fundamental skill is missing. Their team had been dealing with project timeline issues. Instead of explaining the actual resource constraints they were facing, their leader told stakeholders the organization had implemented