And you know what happens? When politics enters the workplace, trust exits. Because people can tell. They always can. No matter how polished the performance, people sense when their leader isn't being real. And once they sense it, everything that leader says gets filtered through that lens of skepticism. That's why authenticity isn't just a nice to have quality in leadership. It's essential. Not because being real makes you likable, though it might. But because leading

I worked with a team once whose leader had a habit of taking credit for their work. Not in obvious ways. It was subtle. In meetings with upper management, the leader would present ideas the team had developed without mentioning where they came from. When projects succeeded, the leader's name was front and center. When things went wrong, suddenly it was a team effort and everyone shared the blame. The team noticed. Of course they noticed. And once they did, everything changed.

A few years ago at a leadership conference, someone pulled me aside during a break. They needed to vent about their boss. What they described stayed with me because it wasn't just frustrating. It was a masterclass in how leadership falls apart when one fundamental skill is missing. Their team had been dealing with project timeline issues. Instead of explaining the actual resource constraints they were facing, their leader told stakeholders the organization had implemented

But that change required brutal honesty with myself. Reflecting on situations and really thinking about my role in the status of the relationship. Understanding what I'd done to cause the problems and then owning it. Hindsight is said to be 20/20, and it certainly can be if you have your eyes open. You just have to be willing to open your eyes. I had to look at relationships that weren't working and ask myself hard questions. What did I do to contribute to this? How did my

I apologize when I have to bother someone to get details about a personnel matter. Even when that matter is as important (or more important) to the person I'm "bothering" as it is to the employee involved. Even when it's literally part of their job to provide me that information. Then on the flip side, I apologize when I have to deliver news that isn't what someone wanted to hear. When a project didn't make the priority list. When the outcome of a situation isn't exactly wha

Here's the thing about leadership: we accumulate baggage. Not just physical clutter on our desks (though let's be honest, that happens too), but mental and emotional weight that limits our effectiveness. Habits that made sense at one point but don't anymore. Beliefs about leadership that sound noble but actually hold us back.

Here's what this all comes down to: we're all adults here. We all work with people we don't particularly like. We all have colleagues we'd rather not spend time with. We all have had conflicts and disagreements and personality clashes. But somehow, most of us manage to put on our big kid pants and act professionally anyway. We respond to emails from people who annoy us. We collaborate with people we'd never choose to hang out with. We're polite to people we'd cross the stree

You know that employee who used to be your go-to person? The one who'd volunteer for projects, stay late when needed, and bring energy to team meetings? Yeah, they're still showing up. They're still doing their job. But something's different. The spark is gone. They're doing exactly what's required and not one thing more. Welcome to the world of quiet quitting, and if you haven't noticed it on your team yet, you're either incredibly lucky or not paying close enough attention.

Difficult conversations are…well…difficult. There's no sugarcoating it. Whether you're addressing performance issues, navigating conflict between team members, or confronting your own manager about a concern, these conversations trigger every self-preservation instinct we have. Our palms sweat. Our hearts race. We mentally rehearse what we'll say at 2 AM, crafting the perfect words we'll probably forget the moment we sit down.