“I don’t know what you’re doing, so you must not be doing anything.” That’s what a coworker from another department said to me. Not in a joking tone. Not as a question. As a statement. The logic was apparently this: if they couldn’t see me working, I must not be working at all. I was shocked. And honestly, I was hurt.

You might be wondering how that's even possible when you've heard the material before. The answer is two things: the people in the room, and where I am in my own life. The attendees rotate. So even on a topic I've seen before, the perspectives, stories, and examples are completely different. And honestly, so am I. Three years of living, leading, and learning means I hear things differently. Ideas that didn't land before suddenly click. Things I thought I understood hit me at

Here's the thing. Procrastinating having a difficult conversation doesn't make it easier. It actually makes it harder. Most of the time, the conversations aren't those that I didn't have, because I am not afraid to have a difficult conversation. It's that I waited too long to have it. Let's use a performance matter as the example. Then let's put ourselves in the shoes of being the person with the performance issue. How would you feel if your boss came to you and told yo

I worked with someone who wouldn't take accountability for anything. Well, unless it was taking credit for something. For that, credit would be taken. If they made a mistake however, the finger was pointed. The idea they were presenting suddenly became someone else's. The decision they had made became a decision they were overturning. Often this person did all of this behind the backs of others. We watched relationships crumble and trust fail and had no idea why.